What is the Sex of the Blogs?
January 18, 2008
I have something in my mind is it Male or Female?… A Blog!
OK, different people, different point of view! But Some people think God is a Female and other think is a Male. So what the Bloggers think?… About the Sex of A BLOG, maybe Aphrodite!
Is it never happen to you to visit a blog and for some reason you think that the Blogger is a man or a woman? Then you realise that the Blogger is not a man but a woman or the opposite! WHY? Is it in connection with the design or the colour of the Blog? Or something else…
NO my Blog nor this Post is a GIMMICK! (I like this word) , see the (excellent) Seth Godin Blog, see the related post to this word. I have nothing to sell, and I prefer the Quality of visitors on my Blog than Quantity. I will give feedback to Lorelle, if using some words when writing a Post, like Casinos, Drugs or Sex as she explain in the post ” Blog Struggles: Recovering From a Traffic Spike“, give more Traffic and what kind of… Traffic on my Blog is not important as to write what I think, like and interact with other interesting Bloggers.
We learn by Action and Action give experience.
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January 18, 2008 at 6:32 pm
Whew! Yes, your post title is evocative, but one worthy of further exploration - aside from the snarky gimmick defense.
During the first two years of Lorelle on WordPress, people who met me were sometimes surprised to find I am female, but more interestingly, they thought I would be younger or older than I am. In time, I found that the way I specifically wrote on that blog, to take “me” out of the equation without the writing lacking personality, people put “themselves” into their vision of me. If they were young, they assumed I was young. If they were old, they considered me their age peer. My technique worked, but it was fascinating to see it in action.
Personally, I don’t care if someone is male or female. If they write good stuff, I’m there. If they write crap, well, I know they are male. - no, kidding.
What bothers me is the assumptions, just as I joked, people put onto the sex roles. Years ago, helping on the live chat of WordPress support, I helped a man with a problem and he thanked me by calling me Mr. Lorelle. I told him I was female and he went nuts. At first he was angry that I’d helped him, calling me names, not mean but cautious. Then he was turned on and wanted to get to know me better. When he handed out his big clue, I knew that it had to end.
He was from Saudi and he explained that in his country, the women are all twits, ignorant, and useless. His words. His cultural training made him angry to find out that a woman was smarter than he was on something, especially geek stuff, and yet it was exciting. A woman with brains. Again, his words.
I got rid of him carefully, but I know there are brilliant women in his society. He probably just doesn’t hang out with any. Which is the problem. A society that separates the sexes, labeling them and restricting them by laws - it’s heartbreaking.
One of the things that I so adore about blogging is that anyone can blog. We don’t have to know, nor care, what your sex is. We just care about what you think and say. This is what will melt all the other barriers, don’t you think?
So thanks for the reminder. We still have to think about this and talk about this so it can become accepted and forgotten because it no longer exists.